Frequently Asked Questions
What is Psychotherapy?
Psychotherapy is a process of exploration undertaken by the therapist and client together. The client is encouraged to reflect on matters uppermost in his/her mind during regular 60 minute sessions. Feelings, thoughts, wishes, memories and dreams can be explored within the relationship between therapist and client, and individuals can be helped to understand unconscious processes which affect their everyday thought and behaviour. In this way, Psychotherapy may gradually bring about a greater degree of self-understanding and enable the individual to find more appropriate ways of being, and of coping with difficulties.
Psychotherapy has proved to be an effective aid to:
- Feelings of anxiety and an inability to cope or concentrate
- Feelings of emptiness, sadness or depression
- Lack of confidence or feelings of underachievement
- Difficulty in making or sustaining relationships, or repeatedly becoming involved in unsatisfying or destructive relationships
- Extreme mood swings
- Difficulty in coming to terms with losses such as bereavement, divorce, or loss of a job
- Physical symptoms
- Eating disorders
- Obsessional behaviour
- Panic attacks
What is Counselling?
Counselling offers clients the opportunity to explore their thoughts and feelings. Given a sense of being deeply understood, people can resolve conflicts that prevent them from enjoying their lives. Counselling creates the optimum ambiance where people can grow emotionally so that they can flourish becoming confident and happy.
Most of us at one point or another feel overwhelmed by life circumstances which can leave us feeling helpless and alone. It may seem that there is no way out but with the right support and guidance you can regain control of your life.
Counselling can help people who experience:
- Feelings of general anxiety, depression and being unacceptable to others
- Inability to form and maintain satisfying relationships
- Eating problems
- Life events, such as the loss of a loved one
- Lack of self-esteem, feelings of deep anger
Why see a therapist?
People can be suspicious of therapy, feeling that if they have a problem they ought to be able to simply talk to their family or friends about it. But often it’s not that simple. Our family and friends are very involved with us, and at certain times, or with certain issues, it might be hardest to talk to those we are most involved with, or hardest for those closest to us to be able to help. We might feel there is something we want to say but we don’t know how to say it, or that if trying to talk goes wrong a lot is at stake.
With a therapist, nothing is at stake. A therapist is an outsider who listens objectively and non-judgmentally, who enables you to talk uninhibitedly about whatever is on your mind, and who is skilled at helping you to share the fruits of the therapeutic process with the important people in your life in a way that can enormously benefit your personal and professional relationships.
Do I have to have a specific problem to come for counselling?
No. Feelings of dissatisfaction, depression, indecision, confusion or life changes etc. are a few of the things which can be explored through counselling.
What if I am not sure if counselling/psychotherapy is for me?
You can simply ring me. I will answer your queries and discuss how appropriate the service might be for you. There is no obligation or charge for this.
Do you have evening appointments?
Yes, I can offer a range of appointment times including Saturday morning.
How much will it cost and will it go on forever?
How much and how long are you willing to spend in understanding yourself and looking for contentment in life? Some issues will take longer than others but we can negotiate on these. Look-out to prevent dependence upon therapy is also part of the work.
Is there a low cost option for me?
Yes, We have a sliding scale of fees dependent upon your income. Pro bono work is also available. Contact me to arrange an initial session.
What happens in the initial session?
You will be offered an initial free session which will last for 60 minutes. This is an opportunity to find out more about each other, and to decide whether counselling or psychotherapy is right for you—don’t be afraid to ask questions.
Isn’t it a sign of weakness to need counselling/psychotherapy?
Most counsellors/psychotherapists would say that it is actually a sign of strength. We all face difficult things in life, and the more awareness and self knowledge we can gain in these situations, the better we can move forwards into a more fulfilling future. All fully trained therapists have undergone a lot of therapy themselves and are aware of the benefits.
Is change not just about willpower?
Change requires willpower but is not just about that. Change in your outside world needs the model you carry of the world and yourself in that world to change. A close and deep exploration of your self is required. Once you have done that, you will need willpower because sometimes it’s easier to just let things carry on. There may then be reasons that you can’t summon up the willpower which also need some work.
Is there any point in moaning, should I not just get on with it?
Action is needed as well as talking, but as social beings we need to talk in order to make sense of our lives.
In the culture we live in, we have become quite harsh to ourselves and might say ‘moaning’ when we actually mean taking time for ourselves and our concerns!